Cool isn't So Cool

I've somewhat noticed that sometimes people try to act cool and collected in front of their friends, try so hard to convince people around them they don't need help to survive emotionally, and try to be as mature as they can be.

That actually is good, but only up to one extent. For example, I have a friend who does not want to ask for help even when she has to because she does not want to be a burden. We (the VERY caring friends) will somehow be very worried and in the end annoyed because we want to help and yet, were not permitted to. Sayings like "my mom tak ajar I untuk menyusahkan orang" doesn't really apply when you're really close friends, especially when you're about to do something difficult.

I've thought about this for a while, and then I remembered - I was trying SO hard to act all OK and whatnot when my Father passed away. I remembered my friends and teachers keep on telling me "it's going to be OK" and asking me am I OK. And all I could think of to answer was "yeah".

I wasn't going to let people know I was unbelievably sad and hurt. I wanted them to think I was OK with the situation. I wanted people to NOT worry about me. In the end, it didn't help. I wasn't able to vent out my feelings and I became very reserved. People were there to help but I didn't want any and that affected me in a bad way.

So yes I think being very independent in good, but there's a limit to everything. When you know you need help, do seek some and don't push away any support handed to you. It's always nice to have someone there, even if they are just there to listen. At the end of the day, it makes you less miserable and me less worried.