I'm not a great philosopher of love and relationships but this I can tell. Love does need rules. To make things work, you have to know what you should and shouldn't do. I have had my share of relationships (not saying whether they are good or bad cause to me, that's quite subjective) and I think those who think relationships are merely happiness and fun are those who do not know the depth of commitment you're in.
I have loved and lost in the past and I know what I've done wrong and what I think I've done right. Self-sacrificial is in fact a way for us to show our significant other that we are not selfish. That we can give other things up for the one we love.
I'm not talking about 24/7 lock-down, or a complete change of one-self. Commitments are not about that at all. It's about knowing your responsibilities as a boyfriend/ a wife/ a son / etc and owning up to them. It's about the thought of texting him to tell you've arrived at work. It's about the mere 'sorry' you say when you've done something wrong and NOT elaborate it into excuses that would make things worse.
I love my boyfriend. But I understand that he is not ready for this. So this is MY commitment of waiting for the moment he'll finally be able to see what this is all about. And I know that day would come and I'll find it worth all the while waiting.
So here's to those with the patience I hope I can carry.
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